This girl is beautiful. She performed at the Caribbean Festival today along with two other women (also beautiful) as a dance accompaniment to a Brazilian band.
They danced the Samba at speeds that didn't seem humanly possible with genuine smiles the whole time.
There were tons and tons of girls and women of all shapes and sizes in costumes like this today. Wearing different colors and representing different nations but the one thing they all seemed to have in common was confidence. Look you in the eye, shake your groove thing, confidence. I loved it.
In a different way, so did the men and boys today but for some reason it didn't seem unwholesome or offensive. There was open admiration but I didn't witness any rude come ons or unwanted touching. I'm not sure if it was a cultural thing since these were all Caribbean cultures or a Boston thing but it was nice.
All females should be allowed to own their bodies and their sexuality. They should be taught from a young age. You can't be whole without that. If you're not whole it becomes difficult to give anything to the world.
It's an intimidating thought for most people to think of their daughters cavorting sexually. Whenever I stress this opinion I'm reminded that I don't know what it is to have a daughter. Which I admit wholeheartedly.
I don't suggest to run around constantly having sex with anyone but I do think that when the only option for girls is no sex we don't allow them the chance to develop the decision making skills that are so necessary especially when dealing with boys who have almost been given free reign.
I've met so many girls that once they were disarmed of No, had no way of negotiating what they did and did not want to do; they had no comfort level with it. It wasn't even something in their realm of understanding which often meant they often did things they didn't want to do or for the wrong reasons.
Fast forwarding to marriage, being able to own yourself and express your needs both in and out of the bedroom are critical to a strong relationship. They are the same skill set expressed in different areas.
Who knows how this manifests itself in day to day parenting - as pointed out previously I have no daughters. I guess I have no idea what the hell I'm talking about.